Żona odmawia prowadzenia domu podczas gdy mąż pracuje — 'She wants to be a trophy' wywołuje kontrowersje
To opowieść o rolach płciowych, które powracają jak w kalejdoskopie. Jeden zirytowany mąż zastanawia się, czy postępuje słusznie, oczekując od żony będącej na urlopie macierzyńskim, by zajęła się domem — skoro to on ją utrzymuje. I co zaskakujące, wielu obcych ludzi w internecie stoi po jego stronie. Na forum r/AITA na Reddit opisuje swój przypadek: “I work 40hrs a week and my wife stays home. She decided she wanted to be a sahm (stay-at-home-mom), and despite me not agreeing, she did it anyway. I told her dual-income was better because if one of us lost our jobs we’d still be okay, but she said she didn’t want to ‘miss out’ on her son’s elementary years.” Para małżeńska jest razem rok, ze sobą trzy lata i żona ma 10-letniego syna. „Recently, I heard her complaining to her sister on the phone that I just get home and immediately start playing video games,” he wrote. „I later confronted her about it, and she said she expects me to do 50% of the household labor. I disagreed, because on top of my 40 hr. job, I also handle 100% of the finances and 100% of the car and house maintenance like cutting the yard, trimming trees, or when something breaks.” „She says she’s carrying a lot of mental load, and I told her I am too. She seems to think hers is more than mine, but again, I disagree,” the hubby explained. Oftentimes, people are ready to rip the husband in these sorts of marital situations. However, in this case, most commenters on the post defended the husband. Many went to the extreme of advising him to leave his wife. “Been down this road — will lead to resentment and hate on both sides. Recommend you get out now. Also, if tables turned would she still do 50% of the housework?” “You’re only married for a year. You don’t have children together. Get out now — lesson learned.” Others pointed out why his wife is to blame here. “She doesn’t want to be a SAHM. She wants to be a trophy.” “When your kid is that old and not being homeschooling or something, calling yourself a SAHM is a bit of a stretch in my personal opinion. What is she doing during the 7-8 hours her son is at school? Probably not the cleaning the whole time.” “NTA. I wouldn’t even bother with the therapy, it’s just another expense YOU will have to pay. I think you know what you need to do. Until then, just make sure you don’t get her pregnant…. EVER.” This husband might be complaining about his marriage’s dynamic but at least he’s not hiding his salary from her, like others are. What do you think? Post a comment. “Share your stance. Please adhere to our”
Internetowe verdicty: większość komentatorów broni męża i sugeruje odejście
„Had Been down this road — will lead to resentment and hate on both sides. Recommend you get out now. Also, if tables turned would she still do 50% of the housework?” to jedna z wielu drastycznych opinii, które pojawiły się pod postem. W tym przypadku jednak przeważyły argumenty za mężem. „You’re only married for a year. You don’t have children together. Get out now — lesson learned.” Wśród komentarzy pojawiają się również ostrzeżenia przed manipulacją i oceną roli żony: „She doesn’t want to be a SAHM. She wants to be a trophy.” „When your kid is that old and not being homeschooling or something, calling yourself a SAHM is a bit of a stretch in my personal opinion. What is she doing during the 7-8 hours her son is at school? Probably not the cleaning the whole time.” „NTA. I wouldn’t even bother with the therapy, it’s just another expense YOU will have to pay. I think you know what you need to do. Until then, just make sure you don’t get her pregnant…. EVER.” Autorzy komentarzy podkreślają, że różne perspektywy mogą ranić obu stron, ale w tym przypadku część użytkowników widzi problem w braku równowagi i w tym, że rola SAHM została zaprzeczana przez działania i decyzje pary.
Kwestie finansowe i decyzje mieszkaniowe: czy oboje mają wgląd w finanse i decyzje o domu
„He’s never disclosed how much money he makes annually or given me any insight into his finances,” the man’s wife wrote in the r/AITA Reddit forum. (tłum.: „On nigdy nie ujawnił, ile rocznie zarabia ani nie dał mi żadnego wglądu w swoje finanse,” napisała żona mężczyzny na forum r/AITA w Reddit.) „He also bought our new house without me being present or even knowing he purchased it, saying it was a surprise,” the OP shared. “I did tour it before and really liked it so it wasn’t an issue, it’s just the fact that I was not included in this decision-making.” Podsumowując, para od kilku lat stoi przed decyzją, czy dokończyć wspólne życie w zgodzie, czy rozważyć inne opcje – a myślami podzielcie się w komentarzach. Share your stance. Please adhere to our
