To Truly Know a Person, Ask Three Questions — A Simple, Powerful Test That Unmasks the Truth
Many people believe they can read others, but in relationships the truth is often buried beneath noise. The more we think and analyze, the more tangled the picture becomes. A simple three-question framework can cut through the fog: Where did you come from? Where are you now? Where are you going? This isn’t about predicting the future; it’s about understanding the future a person envisions.
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Where Did You Come From? — The Past
Your past experiences shape who you are. People cannot control every circumstance; some mistakes were made knowingly, others unconsciously. Viewing the past alongside the present and the future is more useful than dwelling on it alone. What happened in the past, and how did it become the present? What helped you move forward from it? A past like this, a present like this, and a future you imagine reveals your life trajectory, pace, scale, and approach.
Where Are You Now? — The Present
What decisions brought you here, to this moment? Did you truly want to be here? Which expectations were met, and which were not? Why move in this direction? Consider your profession, your circle, your income, your hobbies, and your priorities. What brings you joy, and what disappoints you? How do you make choices and what guides your decisions?
Where Are You Going? — The Future
You are not defined by your past; you are who you see yourself becoming in the future. The future matters even more than the past and present because it shapes what you invest in today. What are your dreams? Why these dreams? You need heartfelt conversations—first with yourself: understand yourself, organize your thoughts, let go of what’s not essential, and commit to what matters. Understand and feel the other person, avoid useless expectations and labels. The right, simple questions can reveal a lot about you and others. Dear readers, what questions do you find most useful? Join our Telegram channels: https://t.me/bokarevavera_psycoach and https://t.me/verabokareva
