I sent my wedding guets a list of strict rules and many are cancelling last minute. My family says our wedding is “doomed”
Before yall jump into any conclusions about how my fiancé needs to run away from me and how crazy I am and what a poor man he's for dealing with me, since yall do it to every woman, let me clarify that these rules for the wedding were mutually agreed on by both me and my fiancé and many of them were his idea. I'll list each rule and why people, including our families were against each one.
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Unplugged ceremony and reception until dinner is over and the dance party starts
That means no phones at all unless a very huge emergency. People were ok with the ceremony part but they found the dinner part too much. Many of my parent friends also said that since they're leaving their kids at home they should be at least be granted a little grade to check their phone with their kids babysitters. I said if I made an exception for them I'd have to make it for everyone so no. Unplugged means unplugged. Checking with your kids is not an emergency. If something serious happens you'll know.
Color scheme and strict dress code
All black color scheme and mandatory dresses for women and tuxedos for men. No pants allowed for women. I got reactions for this for two reasons. One reason was that my aunt who's been mourning her dead husband for over 2 years just got rid of black clothes couple of months ago and tries to move on and claims wearing black makes her depressive. Another issue was the mandatory dress as my husband's sister have body dysphoria and hates dresses on her and always wears pants. Again if we make an exception for two people we'll have to make an exception for everyone.
Bridesmaids diets
We've ordered the bridesmaids dresses months in advance. So they'll stay on the weight they are right now. If you're bigger size do whatever is in your power to stay big. If you're skinny, quit fast food for few months and stay skinny. If the dresses don't fit you we're gonna have a fuckin problem so stick to your fuckin diets. They had an issue with this claiming I can't police their eating habits. One of my bridesmaids claims she developed an ED from that rule but there's no official diagnosis so idk if she's valid.
My MOH's daughter is supposed to be our flower girl
But MOH claims she can't do this since the kid will have to stay with a babysitter at a hotel after the ceremony. She lives 4 hours away from me and where I'll be having my wedding. She planned on letting her daughter with her mom to save money on babysitters and refuses to bring the kid as a flower girl and leave her at the hotel with a babysitter.
Am I the asshole for these wedding rules?
My in laws have been against most of our rules from the start. My parents supported us until now but my mom got so mad that she said our wedding is doomed from the get go with these dumbass rules. Many people are cancelling on us last minute and bridesmaids threaten to drop out.
