I caught my girlfriend in bed with another man and she says it was research
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In This Article:
- The first time I caught my girl in our bed with another guy she said it was a mistake and she was sorry
- Now she’s ranting that I should be grateful to her for diversifying into a different kind of life
- I’m worried about my partner’s drinking
- I didn’t know anyone at my own wedding
- Get help from Just Jane
The first time I caught my girl in our bed with another guy she said it was a mistake and she was sorry
The first time I caught my girl in our bed with another guy she said it was a mistake and she was sorry. I forgave her. The second time she announced that she wasn’t sorry because she was simply embarking on ‘research’. She explained that she planned to give up her office job and become an ‘online sex sensation’. She claimed her lover was an adult performer who was giving her tips. Our community members are treated to special offers, promotions and adverts from us and our partners. You can check out at any time. More info Now she’s ranting that I should be grateful to her for diversifying into a different kind of life; one which will bring us a luxurious living and foreign travel. But I don’t want an online sex worker for a girlfriend. I want the old her back. When I accuse her of cheating and treating me like an idiot, she blasts me for being behind the times. Am I? JANE SAYS: Twice now you’ve caught your girl in the act of cheating. Either she’ll say anything to cover her backside, or she really IS determined to enter the sleazy world of adult entertainment and is using other guys for training. Interesting concept… Look, you don’t have to go along with anything you’re uncomfortable with. I’m sure the promise of a luxurious life and foreign travel is seductive, but your girl is talking rubbish. Who says she’s going to earn a fortune online? What guarantees does she have and why would she plunge herself into that kind of risky, cut throat world? Insist on talking everything through. Know your limits and don’t take any rubbish.
Now she’s ranting that I should be grateful to her for diversifying into a different kind of life
Now she’s ranting that I should be grateful to her for diversifying into a different kind of life; one which will bring us a luxurious living and foreign travel. But I don’t want an online sex worker for a girlfriend. I want the old her back. When I accuse her of cheating and treating me like an idiot, she blasts me for being behind the times. Am I? JANE SAYS: Twice now you’ve caught your girl in the act of cheating. Either she’ll say anything to cover her backside, or she really IS determined to enter the sleazy world of adult entertainment and is using other guys for training. Interesting concept… Look, you don’t have to go along with anything you’re uncomfortable with. I’m sure the promise of a luxurious life and foreign travel is seductive, but your girl is talking rubbish. Who says she’s going to earn a fortune online? What guarantees does she have and why would she plunge herself into that kind of risky, cut throat world? Insist on talking everything through. Know your limits and don’t take any rubbish.
I’m worried about my partner’s drinking
I’m worried about my partner’s drinking. She never used to be interested in alcohol. When we first got together in 2019, she’d nurse a lemonade for an entire night in the pub. But she now deliberately gets drunk at home in order to ‘blot everything out’. She swigs cheap wine and sweet cocktails simply to get sloshed. I completely understand why she’s stressed. She’s had a tough twelve months. During the past year her best friend moved away, our dog died and she’s changed jobs three times. She’s currently in a job she hates. I get that she’s unhappy but how can I help her? JANE SAYS: Your partner must hear that alcohol is not the solution. She’s not ‘blotting’ anything out by bingeing, she’s exacerbating the problem and destroying her mental and physical health. Reassure her of your love and support while encouraging her to speak to her GP. You and she can research problem drinking at alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk. She may fret that her situation is hopeless, and everything seems bleak, but she deserves to treat herself with kindness. She’s experienced a series of very unsettling and upsetting events but there will be better days if she lets in help and accepts that she can’t do this by herself.
I didn’t know anyone at my own wedding
I didn’t know anyone at my own wedding. I was working in New Zealand during the run up and trusted my new husband to organise it. Instead, he delegated tasks to his mother who ignored my emails and invited all her own friends. How can I love or respect a man who is incapable of standing up to his mum? JANE SAYS: Organising a wedding is tricky at the best of times. You’re right, your new husband should have taken control of the guest list, but what’s done is done. There’s nothing to stop you from having your own party, with your own people, on the first anniversary. At least you know now what you’re dealing with when it comes to your bossy mother-in-law.
Get help from Just Jane
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