As 15 tendências de parentalidade que precisam terminar já
Depois da política e da religião, a parentalidade é um dos temas online mais controversos. Pais ficam extremamente apaixonados pelas diferenças entre uma parentalidade suave e autoritária, ou pela forma como interagem com os professores. Não é difícil encontrar pessoas com opiniões fortes sobre pais que partilham fotos dos filhos nas redes sociais, que permitem que eles usem ecrãs desde tenra idade, ou que impõem dietas específicas. Um Redditor lançou a pergunta no AskReddit: O que é uma tendência moderna de parentalidade que precisa morrer imediatamente? E mais de 2 400 pessoas responderam com as tendências contemporâneas que preferem ver encerrar o assunto o quanto antes. Muitos estão preocupados com o modo como as crianças são afetadas pela tecnologia, incluindo redes sociais, IA e tablets. Outros temem que as crianças modernas estejam demasiado protegidas e precisam de ser desafiadas para que não sejam engolidas ao entrar no mundo adulto. Este conjunto de respostas oferece alimento para reflexão. Os pais podem facilmente entrar no ritmo das ideias predominantes, antes que seja tarde demais para corrigir o curso. Não há problema em ter uma crítica ponderada para garantir que estamos a fazer o melhor pelos nossos filhos.
In This Article:
- Contas de Instagram das crianças e outras redes sociais
- Brincar não supervisionado é essencial
- Cuidar como projeto vs permitir ser entediado
- Recusar a vitamina K no recém-nascido
- Gentle parenting precisa de limites
- Enredamento emocional com os filhos
- Homeschooling sem qualificação
- Não expor os jovens ao desconforto
- Nomes estranhos e pronúncias
- IA e CheatGPT
- Crianças precisam de cores, não de beige
- Mães que vestem os filhos com roupas da moda
- Pacificar o bebé com uma tela
- Esportes profissionais são improváveis
- Investir cedo na educação dos filhos
- Not reading to your kids Read to yourself and your kids
- Conselho final: investir na educação desde o nascimento
Contas de Instagram das crianças e outras redes sociais
«Kids' Instagram accounts.» «Ou Facebooks. Qualquer rede social, na verdade. Havia alguns pais que eu conhecia que tinham Facebooks para os filhos como diários online. Eram públicos e partilhavam quase todos os detalhes da vida das crianças até que desistiram deles ou os apagaram. Doidos." «I've long since lost touch with them but I knew someone who started a Facebook page for her unborn child. She had pictures of her ultrasounds on it and would write posts in the tone of her unborn child along the lines of 'mommy I can't wait to be born and come meet you.'" 「Já perdi o contacto com eles há muito tempo, mas conheci alguém que criou uma página no Facebook para o filho ainda por nascer. Ela tinha fotos de ecografias nela e escrevia publicações no tom do filho ainda por nascer, no estilo de 'mamãe mal posso esperar para nascer e vir conhecer-te.'」
Brincar não supervisionado é essencial
«Heard an interesting segment on a radio program recently about how children NEED unsupervised, unstructured play (ideally outside with other kids). Helicopter parenting and turning every activity into organized competition is robbing kids of important developmental skills and independence.» «One of the most significant problems in the modern world, where kids' lives are overly structured, parents are involved in everything, and screens are everywhere, is that they experience little free play. Unstructured play is essential to their development because it gives them agency over their own lives and allows them to negotiate relationships with other kids, take risks, and solve problems.»
Cuidar como projeto vs permitir ser entediado
«Treating kids like a project to optimize instead of people who are allowed to be bored, messy, and human.» «It's the 'gardener vs. the carpenter.' We have much less control over who our children become than we think we do. If there’s a dandelion seed in the ground it’s not going to become a tulip no matter how hard you try. All you can do is make sure the soil is nourishing so they can be the best damn dandelion in the yard.»
Recusar a vitamina K no recém-nascido
«Nurse here- Refusing vitamin K for your newborn. I’ve never seen an infant harmed as a result of a vitamin K shot… but I have seen one die as a result of a brain bleed that could have been prevented with a routine vitamin K injection.» «I work at a pediatric hospital. The number of newborns with life-altering brain bleeds that get flown in to us because the mom refused the Vit K is mind-blowing. Like the baby shows up 24 hours old, and their life is over because of a major bleed that will now eat away any brain tissue they have.»
Gentle parenting precisa de limites
«Gentle parenting turning into no parenting, like ma'am, that child needs boundaries, not a podcast.» «Agreed. I work with young children (2-5), and I see this a lot. Kids need boundaries. If you set a boundary and the child throws a tantrum, SO WHAT? Let them. I think it’s good that parents in general are trying to be more gentle than maybe their parents were to them, but it tends to go too far in the opposite direction.» «Claiming you are doing 'Gentle Parenting' when you aren't. Gentle Parenting is treating your children like human beings with emotions and needs. It isn't a magical buzzword that lets you be a negligent parent with no repercussions.» «Gentle parenting is a strategy that emphasizes emotional validation, firm but respectful boundaries, and empathy. Supporters believe that it helps kids with communication skills, emotional intelligence, and trust. Critics believe that it makes it hard for kids to handle authority and can easily slide into overly permissive parenting."
Enredamento emocional com os filhos
«Your kids aren't your best friends. They are your kids.» «My mom treated me like an emotional support animal to the point of damaging relationships with her actual friends and sabotaging my attempts at making friends until I cut her off at 26. Our last conversation resulted in me hanging up on her mid-sentence because she was trying to scare me out of getting to know someone who's now my best friend. It was astounding to realize just how much her latching onto me was making me miserable.»
Homeschooling sem qualificação
«Homeschooling when you are in absolutely no way qualified to.» «The least educated, least organized, and most unreliable mom-friend I have is the one who is homeschooling her kids. I honestly think it’s because she is too lazy to wake early to get them to school on time.»
Não expor os jovens ao desconforto
«Not exposing our youths to stuff that makes them uncomfortable. This leads to socially anxious teens, who get a panic attack from normal everyday interactions. People who are afraid of their own shadow. Youths who cannot trust that you'll get through the unpleasant experiences.»
Nomes estranhos e pronúncias
«You mean you’re not a fan of 'Myckhenzleigh'?» «Saw one last weekend, Kahriz. Asked the kids coach 'How is that pronounced?' Chris.» «I came across a Xakary the other day.»
IA e CheatGPT
«Letting kids anywhere near that AI. I thought cheating was bad enough in my day but holy sh*t is CheatGPT getting outta hand, our next generation is gonna be braindead if this keeps up.» «Part of my job is skills development training. I getting tired of arguing with the class when they tell me they dont need to learn because 'they can just ask ai.'»
Crianças precisam de cores, não de beige
«Sad beige children. Kids need colors to aid in their mental and cognitive development. Children need a childhood more than beige moms need ugly aesthetic pictures.»
Mães que vestem os filhos com roupas da moda
«I find parents who always dress their kids super trendy gross. For normal days I just let my kid choose his clothes, IDGAF he's a kid.»
Pacificar o bebé com uma tela
«Pacifying your toddler by handing them a screen.»
Esportes profissionais são improváveis
«Thinking your kid is going to play professional sports. Look only 7% of HS athletes go on to play college athletics at any level. In sports where there is a draft (Football, baseball, hockey, basketball, softball, soccer) only 2.7% of draft eligible athletes get drafted. That means in those sports IF you play HS ball, you have a 0.19% of going pro. Your 8-year-old is probably not part of that 0.19%. You dont need to spend 10s of thousands of dollars on them playing on the very best travel teams. Let them be kids.»
Investir cedo na educação dos filhos
«Bottom line is new parents should just dump money into their kids' 529 the second they're born rather than rely on some scholarship that will never materialize for 93% of them, let alone lead to a pro career.»
Not reading to your kids Read to yourself and your kids
«Not reading. Read to your kids. Read for yourself. It matters less than feeding them, but not a lot less.» «This is huge. It's basically free and makes a lifelong difference. If the parents can't read, or can't read in the target language, they can still take their kids to libraries or other places that can cultivate a love for reading. I teach community college freshmen. I have no idea who was breastfed or even vaccinated (things people spend too much time obsessing about, one of which doesn't even actually matter), but I could probably guess with 95% accuracy whose families encouraged reading.»
Conselho final: investir na educação desde o nascimento
«This is huge. It's basically free and makes a lifelong difference. If the parents can't read, or can't read in the target language, they can still take their kids to libraries...»
